“I want a lady in the street, but a freak in the bed.”
Today, I was thinking about those lyrics. It’s from an Usher song, and the rest of it’s…well, not all that flattering. But, I was thinking about that phrase as it relates to women. Once you get beyond the crudeness, I think the idea is even…Biblical. In fact, I think he expresses, in a sense, the highest ideal of Christian women—the Proverbs 31 Woman. We’ll get back to that.
As modern women, we have a hard time reconciling the Bible’s ideas about submissive, demure woman, with our modern cultural values of feminism. For the past several decades, women have struggled with this. There have been many sermons, books, articles and even whole conferences on this question. How do live as Biblically liberated women?
I love the Proverbs 31 woman. She is my hero, and my all-time favorite Biblical character. One day, I hope to be her. An intelligent, hard working, and productive entrepreneur that everyone, especially her husband, admires.
But what do you think she’s like behind closed doors? Do you think she’s buttoned-up, prim and proper? I would like to think not. I would like to think, that she embraces her sexuality and fully as she embraces life.
After all, sexuality is an expression of the self as a whole. Given that, I would like to take Usher’s lyric beyond sexuality. This is where I think Usher’s expression comes into contact with the Bible. The essence of the lyric is that she is someone that has grace when appropriate, but when it’s time to cut loose, can.
On the outside, the Proverbs 31 woman is sophisticated, smart, beautiful, and full of manners and grace. But, she is a woman that in the proper context, is not afraid to be herself. She is not a meek, timid mouse.
But, rather, she is empowered to speak her mind, but only when necessary. She knows when to be discreet, and when vulgar speech doesn’t suit her. I think she can tell an inappropriate joke, and can laugh at one as well. But, she knows where its proper time and place is.
I’m not trying to write a new thesis on women and Biblical values. But, I think the Proverbs 31 Woman is a lot more relatable and real than we sometimes make her out to be. And when she’s that, she attainable.